A woman who lives on drive and adrenaline has no point of rest. There is no state of satisfaction and no stopping, and it shows in everything: in how she eats, how she talks, how she goes to bed. Where a woman's support actually comes from, and how to get it back through simple breathing, was described by Peruquois, a top World Music performer in Australia, musician, composer, author and facilitator of self-development trainings for women.
It all starts with the breath
With deep breathing that lets you feel the connection with your body from the inside, in a very soft state of presence.
The order of that connection matters. First the heart, then the womb. Sensuality comes online after that, and it touches the whole way a woman lives, intimacy included.
The yoni as the base of a tree
Peruquois uses the Sanskrit word yoni, and in her usage it means far more than people assume.
«The yoni is like the base of a tree, where the roots go down into the earth,» she says. That is where the root grows that a woman uses to anchor into the ground and into herself.
A woman aimed exclusively at results lives only in the upper half of her body. She effectively cuts the emotional and sensual connection with that area, and then all her support relocates to her head, where support does not exist by definition.
The practice itself
The technique takes a minute and requires nothing but attention.
On the inhale, gently contract the muscles of the female center, the yoni, drawing them slightly in. It works like a little pump, with which we use the breath to draw energy from the earth up through ourselves, and the body fills.
Then hold the breath. The hold is there so you can feel the moment of fullness and your own presence in that area. The more a woman feels that connection, the more the sense of love inside that presence develops in her.
Then release the muscles and exhale. That is the cycle, and it can be repeated as many times as you like.
This is a very simple practice that simply gives you the chance to feel that a woman is in fact rooted in her own nature rather than in her head.
A separate advantage is that it is invisible. You can do it anywhere, you can do it in the car, on the tram, in the office, and nobody will notice.
That removes the main obstacle busy women name: there is no time for myself. Here none is needed separately, the practice fits into time that is already passing in transit or in waiting.
The resistance that may come up
Peruquois warns that many women meet strong inner resistance on the first attempt, even a feeling of shame, as if they were doing something wrong and breaking some rule.
This is not only about the yoni. The same thing rises during free movement, during dance, during any attempt of the body to express itself without a prescribed form.
The conditioning arrives from several places: from family, from early experience, from the general culture of shame around the female body. Peruquois says the situation looks similar all over the world and depends little on the country, with cultural differences only changing its shades.
It is worth knowing in advance, so the resistance is not mistaken for a signal to stop. It means precisely that a woman has arrived at a place she has not touched in a long time.
What changes
When a woman starts breathing into the very bottom of her belly, the pelvic muscles gradually soften and become more sensitive. The sensitivity that had been missing there comes back.
And with it comes what the whole thing is for. A sense of support appears that does not depend on circumstances, on anyone's approval, or on how well the day happened to go.
A woman's stability grows from below, from the area she most often ignores and is ashamed of. A few minutes of breathing a day give her the root back, and everything else rests on it from there.
And if you want to restore the connection with your female center and with your own cycle, take Peruquois's course Woman's Guide to Wholesome Period, you will find it on the website under Courses.
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