A woman rarely brings her irritation, her sadness and her hurt out into the open. More often she protects the people close to her from them: mum is tired at home, there is no time for it at work, her friend has enough on her plate already. At that moment the emotion does not go anywhere, it stays inside. And real rest is impossible without living your feelings through.
A regular emotional detox
A sense of full strength and inner harmony is impossible without living your feelings through. Very often women store the negative inside, guarding everyone around them from it. But if emotions are not expressed, they get blocked deep inside and destroy inner harmony and balance, and that shows up in the body as well, right down to psychosomatic symptoms and hormonal disturbance.
So clear the emotional rubbish out regularly: anger, sadness, fear, irritation, shame and other heavy feelings, in whatever way suits you.
The word regularly matters more here than it seems. This is about a habit. A single heart-to-heart once every six months is not enough, after it the lid closes again.
Attention to the body
For a woman it matters to love her body and care for it, and that is a necessary component of real rest.
A hot bath with natural sea salt fills you with energy well. But that time is not for lying there scrolling a feed. Think about yourself, listen to the sensations in the body, connect with your soul. A contrast shower is also a good way to restore the energy you have lost.
The difference between two versions of that rest is enormous, and from the outside they look identical: a woman is lying in the bath. Everything is decided by where her attention is at that moment.
The morning charge
To be fresh all day and in good spirits, it matters to start the morning right. Then there will be no exhaustion later in the day, and even short breaks will fill you with strength.
Do not reach for your phone the moment you wake up: for mental and physical health it is better to reduce screen time in general. Do a small exercise to feel yourself and the true desires of your soul better.
1. Place your right hand over your heart and your left hand on your belly. 2. Feel the rhythm of your breath, feel your body. 3. Hear how much you love and value it.
You can do the same during the day, it takes a minute and brings you back to a state of harmony quickly.
A place of power of your own
A woman must have a corner in her flat or house that will be her own place of power. And every member of the family has to understand and accept that they cannot push into that space, that only you have access there.
Decorate and arrange that corner the way you like. There can be a place for an aroma lamp or candles, a yoga mat or a comfortable chair with a soft blanket. It is good if you can listen there to music that awakens and feeds femininity and harmonises your inner state.
Try to spend at least a little time in your own place of power every day, it will give you energy and help you rest properly. It is exactly that dailiness that turns a corner of a room into a place the body goes to rest on its own.
Women's meditation
To rest properly, every woman has to learn to connect with her true essence. When we meditate, we begin to hear ourselves, our own inner voice, and to return to our female nature.
And here it matters to use the right tools. Women's meditation differs from men's, because the ways we fill with energy and our physiology are different. Practices for women have to involve the body and be accompanied by sound, which helps activate the life centres.
Quite often we try to live by male laws and we get dissatisfaction, tiredness, disappointment. It matters for us to return to our true nature, so that we can get our strength and energy back quickly, along with a feeling of harmony and ease.
An emotion a woman did not let out stays in the body and takes its payment in silence, tiredness and ill health. So rest begins with permission to feel, and only after that come the bath, the quiet corner and fifteen minutes of practice.
And if you want to bring your calm back quickly on the days when there is too much inside, take Peruquois's course From Stress and Anxiety to Inner Harmony in 15 Minutes, you will find it on the website under Courses.
Peruquois
A top World Music performer in Australia, musician, composer, author and facilitator of self-development trainings for women.
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