It happens that at some point the sense of happiness goes, inspiration disappears, the motivation to do anything evaporates, and there is far too little energy. The vacation is over, the schedule is in order, the sleep is there, and on Wednesday you are still sitting in front of an open laptop unable to start. Which activities return a woman's fullness of life is explained by Peruquois, a leading World Music performer in Australia, musician, composer, and the author and facilitator of personal development trainings for women.
Why the male way of refuelling does not work for women
“Men find their realization in competition, receiving energy and self satisfaction from it,” says Peruquois. That is how they are built, and achievement genuinely charges them.
A woman is woken by something else. The modern world, in her observation, has masculinized women, and they often work at activities, and in a manner, that contradict their nature. Hence the familiar state: the tasks are done, the goals are closed, and inside there is nothing.
“Women are born to manifest through creativity. It gives life meaning, fills it with energy, inspiration, happiness,” says Peruquois. For a woman even carrying a child, giving birth and raising children is an act of creation.
Rest restores you after expenditure. Creativity is the income, and without it there is eventually nothing left to restore.
Narrow, specialized hobbies each woman chooses for herself, but there are natural activities that suit any woman. Those are the ones that give satisfaction and fill her with enthusiasm.
Singing
In every ancient culture women sang. They knew that the voice is the key to self expression, to releasing stress and to finding inner balance.
Adults live under an unspoken ban on showing emotion. When feelings are strong and we hold them back, blocks and traumas form and hide in the subconscious. The voice deals with those blocks quickly and opens up femininity, which is why vocal elements appear in almost every women's practice that works.
“Singing is as natural for a woman as breathing, it opens the soul and releases stress, it gives energy,” says Peruquois. You can sing in the shower, in a choir, with a teacher or through an online course.
Singing also has entirely measurable benefits. It increases lung capacity, which is a natural route to longevity. It trains the diaphragm, which during singing and deep breathing massages the adrenal glands and lowers the production of the stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline. It works the muscular corset and adds grace to the body, develops the ear and improves how the brain functions.
Most women live with the sensation of a tight collar around the throat. That is the product of prohibitions on self expression, and singing partly lifts it. The voice also becomes more flexible and easier to control, speech gets clearer, and you are more pleasant to talk to.
Dance
A sage was once asked what to do about being unhappy, and he answered with a question: when did you last sing and dance.
Dance is beauty in motion, and there is no need whatsoever to master a style professionally. Choose the dance that gets a response from you, one that produces a tender sense of fullness or a feeling of delight. It can be anything, from a morning dance practice to hip hop or to tango with a partner.
As physical activity, dance is far more feminine than a gym. It gives the body feminine contours, emphasizes the curves, develops a sense of rhythm, flexibility and self possession.
Dance can also become a family ritual if you invite your partner to do it with you. It brings people closer: you begin to understand not only your own body but his nonverbal signals too.
Drawing
Everything is available now, from classical lessons to intuitive drawing and painting on water.
Women often hide their inner world, sometimes even from themselves. Drawing is a way to get to know it and to open up creative potential, a workout for the brain and an act of self knowledge at the same time. Through a drawing you can share your state with the people close to you, if you want to.
Writing
In literature, choose what is nearest to you: short stories, poems, songs. Read aloud even when you are alone. Not everything has to go on a stage, and a woman's creative work is first of all for herself.
A novella and a diary entry matter equally, and both are creative realization. Peruquois singles out intuitive writing, where you simply allow yourself to write without controlling what comes out. It unloads the psyche, helps you find answers to what is troubling you, and gradually trains the subconscious to support you.
The kitchen and everything made by hand
One day a week can go to culinary experiments. That takes the routine out of cooking and turns it into an adventure it is easy to bring children and a partner into. You get to know new ingredients, new methods, and through them other cultures. And it is a direct contribution to the health of the family.
Sewing belongs here too. Beyond the energetic filling, work like that saves you from unnecessary shopping, and at the end of it you have a garment that fits perfectly. You do not have to sew it yourself, you can design your own pieces together with a tailor.
If you want to add company to the creativity, any of these can be done in a group.
What it adds up to
Activities that fill you are always the first to drop out of a schedule, because there is no reporting attached to them. Nobody will ask why you have not sung in a week or why the sewing machine has not been touched. A missed report gets asked about. What stays in the calendar is whatever is demanded from outside, and six months later a woman is living on expenditure alone.
Everything that develops a woman's inner creative world makes her happier without exception. That is the source, and no vacation substitutes for it.
If you want to start with the voice, the most natural of a woman's instruments, Peruquois has a course called What Does Your Voice Tell About You?. You will find it on her website under Courses.
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